June 27, 2019

When one is married, one hopefully communicates openly and transparently. It is a good and productive thing to be able to express to your partner everything (within reason and with compassion and judgment) from the profound to the prosaic and the picayune. Whether and...

June 27, 2019

It has been some time since I actively wrote here, so I beg your indulgence with the length of this piece.

Recently, I was “on trial” in lovely DuPage County, Illinois in a case I took over as substitute counsel. For those of you not from, or located in, Chicago, it is...

June 27, 2019

When Vanessa and I divorced four years ago, we both made a conscious effort not to fight. As divorce lawyers, on a daily basis, we each saw the carnage - financial, emotional and otherwise - that flows from engaging with divorce as combat. We saw that the fights our cl...

June 27, 2019

WARNING: Frank Sinatra references ahead. 

It was a very nice Thanksgiving week. I drove Vanessa and Felix to Midway on Tuesday so they could get a head start on Texas and the week’s festivities. I stayed behind a day for work and to drop in on an Open House at the David...

June 27, 2019

Standing in line at my local Jewel-Osco store (think Publix, Safeway, or HEB if you're not from here), I was fuming. Itching the poor growth on my shabby facsimile of a beard, I was becoming unglued. What started with eye-rolling quickly led to taking an aggressive phy...

June 27, 2019

I start back up on a trial on Monday, so I hit the office before 8 a.m. today. It was a good and productive half day of work - I think I have my cross-examination in order - mostly.  I also have been thinking a lot about our friend Adam's post regarding social media an...

June 27, 2019

Personally, I was motivated to start this project and it’s inevitable next step - the ubiquitous podcast - when Vanessa and I lived in Texas after our divorce. Every day, I had about 45-60 minutes of driving time in the car. After a few months of music and news - I beg...

June 27, 2019

It is unofficially here - Summer. The temperatures are rising and so are the emotions of many moms and dads of divorce. Camps (stay away and local) are nearing. Vacations are on the horizon. And uncomfortable interactions with the ex are in the offing. My own inbox at...

June 27, 2019

Recently, I had a conversation with an experienced and wise person in our area of work who we in this profession all regard well. Despite many outward dissimilarities, this person and I share a number of similar beliefs and attitudes about a lot of issues both in our p...

June 27, 2019

It is strange when you appear in a courtroom and the "opposing party"you will soon cross-examine has read your material from some blog. But this happened to me two days ago. I then proceeded to do my "day job" and came home. I put the "opposing" and "party" in quotes a...

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